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How to Attract a Female – How to Deal With Negative Thoughts

February 26th, 2010 Leave a comment Go to comments

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Hey, I just want to give you guys a quick tip on improving your game. This is about thinking on a different perspective. You can use this technique in every aspect of your life.  Enjoy.

How to Deal With Negative Thoughts

One of the biggest mistake of men is thinking so much of their mistakes rather than thinking how to deal with it.

Guys often have thoughts like:

‘Oh I got embarrassed, I’m never gonna do this again.’
‘Damn, I really sucked. I knew my looks won’t attract any woman.’
‘See, I just got rejected again! I can never be successful with women.’

Well, if you expect and think about failure before you actually approach the woman, it will REALLY HAPPEN.

“We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.” – Carl Gustav

Most guys think about failing even before they approach women. Well, if you really think you’ll fail, then most probably you will. So stop thinking about failure.

Think about this in a different perspective.

If an AFC/loser gets rejected by a woman, he will immediately tell himself negative thoughts.

NOW this is what you want to do:

When you get rejected, instead of crying like a baby, turn it in to a ‘HOW TO’ approach.

For example:

1. ‘Ooh I got rejected because I didn’t know what to say’ – the how approach – ‘How can I improve this the next time I do it?’
2. ‘I got rejected because I said the wrong words’ – the how approach – ‘What words should I say next time?’

Instead of thinking about negative thoughts, start analyzing the situation.

1. What happened?
2. Is it bad timing?
3. Is my approach bad?
4. Am I not confident enough?

It’s like telling yourself:

“Hey, I wasn’t prepared that time. Now I can do it better”

You have to assess your weakness and find a way to improve it.

The first step on how to attract a female is changing how you think.

If you start thinking this way, your mind will be focused on improvement. Always think about how you can improve yourself everyday.

In other words, you have to LEARN from your failures. Open your mind with the possibility to change.

Every rejection is an improvement. Don’t dwell on your mistakes and use it to improve every aspect of your life.

Failure is GOOD, only if you LEARN from it. That’s how you attract females

That’s all for today.

~ Rocks

How to Attract a Female

  • Prepare your approach

Next, you now have to plan your attack. Well, the key here is you have to make it different. Now don’t get intimidated, just relax and follow the next instructions and you’ll be fine. Remember, it will be easier once you get used to this and it is simpler than you think it is.

Things to avoid:

  1. The signs and symptoms above
  2. Some cheesy pick up lines
  3. Being needy and desperate
  4. And this big one below…

Do not and I mean DO NOT take rejection deeply or personally. Take away the thoughts like ‘Oh I got embarrassed, I’m never gonna do this again.’, ‘Damn, I really sucked. I knew I was worthless.’ Or ‘See, I just got rejected again! I can never be successful with women.’

Well, if you expect and think about failure before you actually approach the woman, it will REALLY HAPPEN. Some guys have this mindset of telling others ‘look… I’m going to get rejected’ then after it happened they will say ‘see, I told you I’m such a loser’ like they’re winning when they prove to others that they really are a failure. Well, if you really think you’ll fail, then most probably you will so stop thinking about failure.

Nooooooooooo no no no no… no… no negative thinking here please.

Well, think about this in a different perspective. If an AFC gets rejected by a woman, he will immediately tell himself negative thoughts. NOW this is what you want to do: when you get rejected, instead of crying like a baby, turn it in to a ‘HOW’ approach.

For example:

‘Ooh I got rejected because I didn’t know what to say’ à the how approach à ‘How can I improve this the next time I do it?’

Start thinking differently and think positive thoughts.

Your mind is the CAUSE, and having success with women is the EFFECT.

Remember that.

Your conscious mind has the power to control everything even what your unconscious mind thinks. Well, it’s like your conscious mind is the coach and the unconscious mind is the player.

So what exactly is this unconscious mind and how important is it in dating women?

Well, “The unconscious mind is a term invented by the 18th century German philosophy romantic philosopher Ser Christopher Riegel and later introduced into English by the poet and essayist Samuel Taylor Coleridge. The unconscious mind might be defined as that part of the mind which gives rise to a collection of mental phenomena that manifest in a person’s mind but which the person is not aware of at the time of their occurrence. These phenomena include unconscious feelings, unconscious or automatic skills, unnoticed perceptions, unconscious thoughts, unconscious habits and automatic reactions, complexes, hidden phobias and concealed desires.” ~Wikipedia

Here’s the source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unconscious_mind

So basically, the unconscious mind is the one responsible in your unconscious behavior. IF you say to her ‘Yes, I’m a very confident man’ but in your unconscious mind say you aren’t, THEN it will show that you really are not confident.

It will show on your body language, speech, and the way you handle the situation. This is why most men fail when they look at information on the internet on ‘how to approach women’. They use it without training their unconscious mind to think the right thoughts that’s why when they approach women, the result is not the same as what the information says.

Hey we’re getting deeper here and somehow out on the topic. Let’s go back at handling rejections…

So what about rejections?

If you want to be really good with women, then you have to make this rejection your best friend. Seriously, there is no 100% guarantee that will prevent you from getting rejected. Even the best pick up artist out there also get rejected. It’s all part of the game. And you should laugh about it.

We LAUGH at rejections. And we don’t take it personally.

When you’re rejected by a woman, just laugh and say:

‘tss… this woman has no taste at all’ or

‘you bitch… you lost your chance to talk to a lovely man!’

When you learn how to ignore rejections, your LEARNING will now increase to another level. You will now focus on ‘Oh this is what I did wrong, what can I do about it’ approach.

Here’s another tip (that I always forget when I’m about to write it):

When you’re rejected, it’s not you that is rejected, it’s the APPROACH. Again…

It’s your approach that is rejected and not you personally. So don’t take it personally.

Now let’s get to our anti-cheesy opening line before I start writing a book here…

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