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How to Attract a Girl – How to Avoid Freezing Up

February 27th, 2010 Leave a comment Go to comments

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If you want to learn how to attract a female then I suggest you continue reading.

Have you experienced freezing up when talking to hot women? Like you can’t think of something to say even though you’re trying so hard to think of a topic? I know it sucks, and I know how you feel.

Do you want to know how to avoid this? It’s pretty simple.

You ready?

The secret to avoid freezing up and not knowing what to say is to relax and get away from anxiety.

Okay stick with me for a minute here because I’m going to explain why.

You see, when you think too much (especially when you’re so conscious about what you say), you get anxious and pressured. It prevents you from the natural flow of your brain function and it prevents you from talking normally.

How anxiety works

“Anxiety is a multisystem response to a perceived threat or danger. It reflects a combination of biochemical changes in the body, the patient’s personal history and memory, and the social situation. As far as we know, anxiety is a uniquely human experience. Other animals clearly know fear, but human anxiety involves an ability, to use memory and imagination to move backward and forward in time, that animals do not appear to have. The anxiety that occurs in post-traumatic syndromes indicates that human memory is a much more complicated mental function than animal memory. Moreover, a large portion of human anxiety is produced by anticipation of future events. Without a sense of personal continuity over time, people would not have the “raw materials” of anxiety.” source: http://www.answers.com/topic/anxiety

So basically, anxiety when talking to women works simply because of two little factors. One is the fear of what’s going to happen next (consequences for taken action) and the other is thinking about past experiences (rejections from the past).

Well, to fix this problem, all you have to do is

1. Don’t think of what’s going to happen (don’t think of the outcome!)

2. Prepare before talking to women

You see, when you think you don’t act.

The only solution is to stop thinking too much and get out of your comfort zone and experience the things that you don’t want to experience.

Now for preparation, learn a little bit a bout story telling, history, romance and fashion. Check out magazines and watch some t.v. to get ideas to talk about.

Avoid talking about religion, politics, work, or other negative stuffs!

Oh and one more thing, here’s how you can really get rid with your anxiety…

Meet as many women as you can.

The reason behind this one is that when a guy exposes himself to a situation that he’s not used to do, he will eventually develop himself and get used to the situation.

In other words, if you continuously expose yourself to women, you’ll get used to talking to them!

Here are more tips to avoid anxiety and freezing up

1. You have to relax and be cool (take deep breaths to relax). Look around you and enjoy the environment. Once you do that, the idea will naturally pop up in your mind.
2.  It’s ok to pause. If you can’t think of something to say then don’t say anything. You don’t have to talk everytime because it will only show that you’re trying too hard.
3. An alpha male is always cool. To be cool, you must not seek for her approval and you must think that she’s not the only hottie in the world. This way you can be free from being so conscious which leads you to anxiety.
4. There are a lot of other girls out there that you can mingle with so if you’re not having a good time with her then don’t try too much and proceed to the next girl. ALWAYS think of ‘There will always be a next girl’.
5. If you’re having a hard time talking to women, try and befriend a lot of women. No, you’re not there to get laid, but you’re there to practice your social skills.
6. You have to be a great listener. Remember that the secret of having good communication is to know when to speak and when to listen.
7. If you’re pausing too long, talk about anything just to start the conversation. Guys often have this fear of saying things that will make them look stupid. But in this case, it’s better to say something crazy than to say nothing. If you start the conversation with a crazy idea, it will flow to where you can change the topic to a better one.

A lot of guys out there do nothing but talk, talk, and talk about themselves. That’s not the right way to do it.

If she asks you a question, you answer and then you ask her a question. This tells her that you are not a self-centered guy.

Always remember to continue meeting women because this is one great way to develop your social skills.  Remember: Knowing what women want from men takes time so you have to be patient because most of the skills that you’ll learn will only come with experience.

If you want more ways to avoid freezing up and start having great conversations with women, check out Double Your Dating Here to learn exclusive ways to meet, date, and seduce women.

This is all for now.

~Rocks

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