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How to Develop Your Inner Game

What is inner game? and how can it affect my success with women?

Basically, the word ‘inner game’ refers to an abstract representation of your inner self.

It is your self-confidence, your view of yourself, your status, your goals, ambitions, and your frame of mind.

To make it really simple, just think about inner game as your confidence level.

“Confidence – to believe that one is able to accomplish what one sets out to do” – Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-confidence

Is it important? Can I just memorize some pick up lines and forget about this inner game thing?

Well, this inner game may sound worthless to you right now, but the truth is, having a solid inner game is the first step in becoming successful in meeting women.

Yes, the first step!

How Inner Game Works

Think of inner game as a foundation of a building. If your foundation is too weak, your building will fall quickly. No matter what you say to a woman (even if it’s the best pick up line on the planet or whatever), the thing that will still matter is how you say it.

If you have solid inner game, you can tell anything to a woman and still come out as high value. That’s how inner game works.

If your belief is strong and unshakable, it will reflect on how you act and speak and women will detect that very quickly. Women are great at sensing subtle cues like voice tonality and body language (which are greatly influenced by your inner game).

Here are the thoughts that you will find inside of a guy’s mind that has solid inner game:

“I am the selector”
“I am wanted by women”
“I have my own reality and nobody can change it except me”
“I am a leader”
“I make things happen”
“I am happy with my life”

Maybe you’re thinking “Yeah, but only guys that have fancy cars and good looks can have this kind of thinking”

Actually, anyone can have this kind of frame of mind. I’ve already seen a lot of guys who don’t have fancy cars and good looks but have this kind of mentality. And yeah, they’re getting a lot of women too.

How to Develop Your Inner Game

There are different ways to develop your inner game and I will discuss it here one by one. These may not be all of the methods to develop your inner game but I’m sure that these techniques will help you a lot in developing  your confidence.

1. Repetition of positive thoughts (self-hypnosis)

As simple as it sounds, this is done by talking to yourself positively.

One main problem that guys fall into is letting themselves dwell with negative thoughts. Well let me tell you this: if you think about negative thoughts while you’re with a woman, your body will follow unconsciously.

Our unconscious mind is not capable of arguing with what you say to it. It just saves what ever thought you’re giving it. If you’re saving negative thoughts, it will absorb negative thoughts. Now if you save positive thoughts, then it will save positive thoughts!

That’s how simple it is!

Now assess yourself. Assess your thoughts. Is it full of positive or negative thoughts? If it still has negative thoughts then quickly put it in trash and start thinking about positive thoughts.

“You are a winner”
“You can attract beautiful women”
“You can have whatever you want as long as you believe in it”

again… GED RID OF NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.

Start thinking like a winner… and you will be one.

This may sound like what you’re mom used to tell you, but this is actually true.

2. Assessment of Weakness and Finding a Solution

Now the next technique to develop your inner game is to assess what is making you miserable and keeping you away from being successful with women.

a. Is it because of your physical appearance?

If it is, then I recommend you to download my report here. It is completely free. You’ll find how to deal with this weakness.

To solve this weakness in simple terms, you have to OPEN YOUR MIND to the possibility that you can attract beautiful women regardless of your looks.

The key to being good with women is mastering how to trigger emotions.

Having good looks does not trigger emotions (well, at least not on a deep level), personality does. So you may want to divert your focus on understanding how attraction works with women.

b. Is it because you don’t know how to talk to women?

If it’s because you don’t know how to talk to women, then start practicing your skills with talking to people. Talk to a lot of people (not necessarily women).

Talk and talk and talk. Socialize with other people. Eventually you’ll develop that weakness and you’ll be able to talk to any woman you want.

Now before you talk to any woman, you have to prepare what to say.

•    Prepare one opener to use
•    Prepare one story to tell
•    Prepare one way to close or grab her number

One common mistake guys make is not preparing what to say to a woman and that leads them to confusion and freezing out.

If you have problems with talking to women, then it will be a big help if you memorize a couple of stories to start the conversation.

c. Is it because you lack self-confidence?

If it is, then why do you lack self-confidence?

Find the reason behind.

What is the reason that is making you nervous when you talk to women?

In most cases, that reason is actually not a reason. It’s just a false belief that you have to remove from your brain.

Remove that false belief that you always think about. If you want to be successful with women, then start thinking about success.

“You can do it”

Now if you actually experienced an embarrassing mistake, then it’s time to reassess the situation. Think about what happened. You have to know what to look for and you have to know where to improve.

KNOW WHERE TO IMPROVE

Assess what happened but don’t dwell on your mistake.

Don’t take rejections personally. If you got rejected, assess the situation instead of making yourself feel miserable.

What did you say?
How did you say it?
Did you project proper body language and voice tonality?
How can you improve it next time?

3. Repetition of Exposure

This one is the killer.

One surefire way to develop your inner game is to continuously expose yourself to women.

I used to play my guitar and sing in front of a lot of audience. To tell you the truth, the first time I did it I was so freaking nervous.

I had a lot of mistakes.

I sucked a lot of times.

There’s even a time that I went completely blank and just sang with random words. :)

But you know what?

It’s worth it! because after a few times I did it, my confidence went up. I got used to singing in front of a lot of people.

Now the same applies with women.

You can read a lot of books and watch a lot of courses but you still need to practice to improve your inner game.

You will have some mistakes, but that’s okay.

It’s just a part of it.

The important thing is, you must continue to GROW.

Improve yourself everyday. If you continue to move forward, you’ll improve your success with women and also other aspects of your life.

My Last Thoughts

Always remember that inner game is a big part of your success with women. You have to develop it continuously.

Forget about negative thoughts and start thinking about positive thoughts. Change how you talk to yourself and always fill your mind with positive reinforcements.

Remember: ALWAYS KEEP MOVING FORWARD.

~ Rocks

What is inner game? And how can it affect my success with women?

Basically, the word ‘inner game’ refers to an abstract representation of your inner self.

It is your self-confidence, your view of yourself and your status, your goals and ambitions, and your frame of mind.

To make it really simple, just think about inner game as your confidence level.

“Confidence – to believe that one is able to accomplish what one sets out to do” – Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-confidence

Inner game is basically the level of belief that you have when you’re doing a certain action.

Are they important? Can I just memorize some pick up lines and forget about this inner game thing?

Well, this inner game may sound worthless to you right now, but the truth is, having a solid inner game is the first step in becoming successful in meeting women.

How Inner Game Works

Think of inner game as a foundation of a building. If your foundation is too weak, your building will fall quickly. No matter what you say to a woman (even if it’s the best pick up line on the planet or whatever), the thing that will still matter is how you say it.

If you have solid inner game, you can tell anything to a woman and still come out as high value. That’s how inner game works.

If your belief is strong and unshakable, it will reflect on how you act and speak and women will detect that very quickly. Women are great at sensing subtle cues like voice tonality and body language (which are greatly influenced by your inner game).

When you look inside a mind of a guy that has solid inner game, here are the thoughts that you will find:

“I am the selector”

“I am wanted by women”

“I have my own reality and nobody can change it except me”

“I am a leader”

“I make things happen”

“I am happy with my life”

These are just some thoughts that you’ll find. Now, if you want to start developing your inner game, start telling yourself these positive thoughts.

How to Develop Your Inner Game

There are different ways to develop your inner game and I will discuss it here one by one. These may not be all of the methods to develop your inner game but this is how I develop mine.

1. Repetition of positive thoughts (self-hypnosis)

As simple as it sounds, this is done by talking to yourself positively.

Did you know that our unconscious mind is not capable of arguing with what you say to it?

It just saves what ever thought you’re giving it.

If you’re saving negative thoughts, it will absorb negative thoughts. Now if you save positive thoughts, then it will save positive thoughts.

That’s how simple it is!

Now assess yourself. Assess your thoughts. Is it full of positive or negative thoughts? If it still has negative thoughts then quickly put it in trash and start thinking about positive thoughts.

“You are a winner”

“You can attract beautiful women”

“You can have whatever you want as long as you believe in it”

2. Assessment of Weakness and Finding a Solution

Now the next technique to develop your inner game is to assess what is making you miserable and keeping you away from being successful with women.

a. Is it because of your physical appearance?

If it is, then I recommend you to download my report here. It is completely free. You’ll find how to deal with this weakness.

To solve this weakness in simple terms, you have to OPEN YOUR MIND to the possibility that you can attract beautiful women regardless of your looks.

The key to being good with women is mastering how to trigger emotions.

Having good looks does not trigger emotions (well, at least not on a deep level), personality does. So you may want to divert your focus on understanding how attraction works with women.

b. Is it because you don’t know how to talk to women?

If it’s because you don’t know how to talk to women, then start practicing your skills with talking to people. Talk to a lot of people (not necessarily women).

Talk and talk and talk. Socialize with other people. Eventually you’ll develop that weakness and you’ll be able to talk to any woman you want.

Now before you talk to any woman, you have to prepare what to say.

  • Prepare one opener to use
  • Prepare one story to tell
  • Prepare one way to close or grab her number

One common mistake guys make is not preparing what to say to a woman and that leads them to confusion and freezing out.

If you have problems with talking to women, then it will be a big help if you memorize a couple of stories to start the conversation.

c. Is it because you lack self-confidence?

If it is, then why do you lack self-confidence?

Find the reason behind.

What is the reason that is making you nervous when you talk to women?

In most cases, that reason is actually not a reason. It’s just a false belief that you have to remove from your brain.

Remove that false belief that you always think about. If you want to be successful with women, then start thinking about success.

“You can do it”

Now if you actually experienced an embarrassing mistake, then it’s time to reassess the situation. Think about what happened. You have to know what to look for and you have to know where to improve.

Assess what happened but don’t dwell on your mistake.

Don’t take rejections personally. If you got rejected, assess the situation instead of making yourself feel miserable.

What did you say?

How did you say it?

Did you project proper body language and voice tonality?

How can you improve it next time?

My Last Thoughts

Always remember that inner game is a big part of your success with women. You have to develop it continuously. Forget about negative thoughts and start thinking about positive thoughts. Change how you talk to yourself and always fill your mind with positive reinforcements.

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